When it comes to truly sensational love, an emotional connection with your mate is vital — but love fitness counts too. It’s not about getting the perfect body though — it’s about discovering and toning the little-known muscles that contribute to more intense, enjoyable, even transcendent love … for both of you. Here are five key pleasure moves to try.
Work your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles.
These three sets of muscles run like a hammock from the back to the front of your pubic bone, encircling the openings to the vagina and the rectum. “During orgasm, these muscles contract rhythmically. The stronger they are, the more intense the sensation,” says urogynecologist Hilary Cholhan, MD, director of the Rochester Regional Continence Center in Rochester, New York. Toned muscles also mean increased muscle mass, resulting in greater blood flow into the area, which may also enhance sensation.
Toning tips: The classic exercise for the PC muscles is the Kegel (familiar to many women who have been pregnant), which basically involves contracting and relaxing the muscles, as if you were trying to stop the flow of urine. In fact, says Cholhan, it’s a good idea to try stopping your urine stream the next time you’re in the bathroom so you become familiar with the PC muscles. (Many women mistakenly squeeze their buttocks or anal muscles instead.)
To do a Kegel, slowly contract your muscles, drawing inward and upward. Hold for a count of three; then slowly relax for three seconds. Repeat as many times as you can, working up to 25 or 30 three-second squeezes. One variation on the Kegel is the flutter: Squeeze and relax the PC muscle rapidly, in a pulsing motion. In the beginning aim for consistency of pulses, rather than speed; that will come with time and practice.