Moving on can be a difficult process after a breakup. While some jump into new relationships quickly, others choose to deliberately remain single for a while so as to work on self.
Wanting to be in a serious relationship and being ready are two very different things.
Although we may think we are really ready, our minds and hearts often betray us when we realize too late that we are pushing our partners and the relationship away through certain actions.
You talk about your ex a lot
The first step in moving on is accepting that the previous relationship is over and it is time to move on.
Bringing up a past partner in a new relationship either means you really are not ready to let go of them, or you are not ready to let go of your previous life.
Either way, that push and pool, emotional uncertainty casts a shadow on the possibility of a serious commitment between you and your current partner.
You’re not happy with yourself
After accepting the situation, the next thing to do is to find your own happiness.
We all have things we’d like to change about ourselves and insecurities to work on, but to quote RuPaul, “if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?” Your self-esteem (or lack thereof) can take a major toll on your relationship.